What exactly is the “divorce syndrome?” Is it a virus? Are you going to be affected by it? Is there a cure? Is it the new “in” thing? It’s definitely not cool. Will your mom and dad find out that you have feelings for the neighborhood dame? Do you? Ha. Stay focused. And the remainder list of questions, roaming around – like a stray dog let loose in a pile of hay – in your head will only get rest once you’ve completely understood the story behind all of this.
Over a period of the last two years, I’ve come across a couple of daredevils who’ve shown us – not necessarily right – the way. On the contrary, these folks respect the status-quo, they even follow trends – even if it’s just a temporary phase or they just felt like it.
I’m referring to the younger generation. The ones that are on a spilt-timer – which means, they must get a divorce within one year of being married. There are tons of them, everywhere. You probably know someone like this. A close friend, sibling, neighbor, and I wouldn’t be surprised if you were one of them.
You’d be annoyed at the number of times they’d blabber about how bad those last 6 months were, and how they were planning to start fresh.
What’s causing all these divorces and breakups?
I only noticed after Bollywood caught on. (Love Aaj Kal)
If we may, for a moment, go back in history and re-look the roles of a man and woman. What do you see? Can you see the obvious trend? If all you see is this screen, a mouse, a keyboard and those dirty knickers hanging over the CPU, than, don’t worry. You’re still sane. And if you checked your Facebook three times in between the first word and here – you definitely need to get a life.
All these years, men and women have survived together with clearly defined roles – those of a dad and mom; a husband and wife; a brother and sister.
The trend suggests, according to me, the man was the provider as well as protector of the family. The woman nurtured the children and household – binding everyone together with values. A perfectly natural phenomenon, seen amongst several species and most logical – well, to me at least.
During this period you would have seen more joint families; tolerance and patience were far more prevalent. Homes were under the woman’s authority – playing the most important role – and they stood like foundation pillars. Values were much higher, relations between families were stronger, however, divorces hadn’t gained much popularity back then and people seemed to be happier living together.
All I here now is, “Baby, when will we shift from your parent’s house and move into our own place?” Ha. I’m sure there are a huge group of girls who’d disagree – I like this group.
In the present day, all these roles have diminished. Now a man can be a housewife, and a woman can be the one working full time – which is all very well. Leaving out the single parents, gay couples and anything that’s not a ‘man’ and ‘woman’ relation would not be fair. So let’s add everyone.
A vacuum has been created at home, once occupied by the woman. Leaving no one to fill this space, homes are slowly falling apart. Children no longer get the all-round growth, which was once given by a woman and man.
Psychologically, can we see the difference? Can we, including me, show patience and tolerance towards a fellow human being? I’d re-look into this with some honesty. Be true to yourself.
Normal to me is, a man and woman together. That’s the way nature made us. We’ve tested nature, questioned its authority several times before, and look what happened – global warming, depletion of ozone layer, pollution and the works.
Are we slowly moving away from family? Are we bending the system so much so that it slaps us right back in the face? Is a nuclear family a better option? How is it so difficult for a son to live with his parents and wife – under one roof?
(Note: With this post I’m not trying to pin point or single out anyone, rather, I’m trying to look at things from a particular perspective. There is really no right and wrong here. Just how you see it. Simple).
